Relational Inconveniences

I’ve been feeling like I should write a blog post, but I’m not sure what to write about. Let’s go with that pointer and ring finger thing.

So, this topic was inspired by a video by The Game Theorists on YouTube entitled “Game Theory: The TF2 Pyro…Male or Female?” In which MatPat tries to determine what gender the seemingly gender-less Pyro from Team Fortress 2 is. One of his arguments is that Pyro’s pointer finger and ring finger are the same length, which has been linked to homosexuality in males. Incidentally, my pointer finger is also the same length as my ring finger.

Now, I am by no means gay, and that link is a statistical link that he brought up without mentioning some of the other links that exist between the digit length ratio, which are also statistical and by no means a sure sign of anything. You can look up the various implications; I won’t be going over them much here.

Instead, I am more going to talk about what that set of statistics inspired in my thoughts.

First, I lied; I am going to tell you one of the implications, which is that the shorter a male’s index finger is compared to his ring finger, the nicer he is likely to be to women. Second, I identify with a lot of values that are more stereotypically associated with women.

Some examples from my Communication textbook, Understanding Human Communication, are: 1) Women tend to consider their conversations, which consist of deeper, more emotional topics, as being a kind of contact that they need, as opposed to men who simply like it. I’ve noticed this lately in that I have been craving deep conversations with my friends. Fortunately, I have found friends who also enjoy such conversations.

2) “female speech is often somewhat powerless and tentative. Saying, ‘This is just my opinion…'” This is pretty simple. I tend to put a whole lot of limiting speech on anything I say that is not an objective fact or me being silly.

3) While “Men . . . are more likely to discuss recreational topics such as sports, technology use, and nightlife” could be used to describe myself, if you swap out those topics with theology, writing, and theoretical physics, I also find myself desiring conversations like the following, “Female friends spend more time discussing relational issues such as family, friends, and emotions.” This one is the most complicated. I don’t talk about the set associated with women very much because the implication is that that just isn’t discussed with guys, and as a guy talking to a girl, it feels (There’s #2) like those things are only discussed if you are romantically involved with each other.

Simply the fact that women value deeper, or more personal, conversations more makes me want to be around them more, but I don’t want to send the wrong message, especially with those that I’ve recategorized (and who know that–I’ll explain later).

No real conclusion. Life isn’t tied up in a pretty bow; sorry to burst your bubble. Do remind me to talk about recategorization, though. That would make for a good and easy post.