No, seriously, what is it? Because it seems to just be a word we made up to differentiate between platonic and romantic teasing. The only difference between those two types of teasing being the relationship that you and the target of the teasing are or want to be in.
You could say that another difference is the frequency and strength of teasing, but that seems too imprecise. I suppose you could make a graph of frequency vs strength and say that this line over here is the line between teasing and flirting. If that’s the case, I can see how one would measure frequency, but how would you measure strength? Another problem with this method is that the line between teasing and flirting is different depending on the target.
So we’re back to just saying that flirting is a word that says more about the relationship than it does about the action, in which case, it seems its only purpose is so people have something to gossip about other than staring into eyes or kissing or whathaveyou.
So I’m sure you’re wondering why I would be talking about this. *gasp* Am I flirting with someone?! I mean, I guess?
I have a very sarcastic humor, and I tend to tease people a lot because of that. As we’ve just established (feel free to argue it), the actual act of teasing and the act of flirting have no difference–the difference being in the connotation and possibly the tone. So, yes, I suppose I am flirting with someone: basically all of my friends.
Which then leads me to wonder if I come off as flirty to my y-chromosome-deficient friends. Rather, since almost no one is able to recognize when someone is flirting with them until after the fact unless the environment is meant for flirting, if other people think I am flirting with the y-chromosome-deficient friend. Of course, since most of my communication with y-chromosome-deficient friends occurs over text because most of them are back home, I don’t have to worry about what other people think, so I just carry on as normal.
So, yeah. I think I technically flirt with everyone in terms of the actions I take, but not according to connotation.
My next post will probably be about what would happen if I died (ignoring the emotional side of things because I’m me and I don’t understand that side of things).